“We have an obligation to remember what our fellow citizens cannot be expected to forget.” –Pablo de Grieff
We can’t forget sexual violence. Sometimes it’s physically impossible to forget, or to stop thinking about it. We go to SOAR and remember every week. Sometimes remembering hurts. Sometimes remembering makes us angry. Sometimes remembering makes us sad. Not always, but sometimes.
We as a campus need to remember. I know people some people feel uncomfortable with the posters reminding everyone that rape happens here. But tearing down the posters won’t make rape go away. And trying to forget won’t make rape go away.
We as survivors remember. Do you?
Though he didn’t mention it in the State of the Union, last week Obama issued a Presidential Memorandum, establishing a new task force to address the issue of rape and sexual assault on college campuses. Coinciding with this announcement, the White House Council on Women and Girls released a report with updated statistics on this issue. And, for another take on the task force, read this.
***Trigger Warning for Statistics/Discussion of Rape & Sexual Assault*** Continue reading
Check out PAVE‘s (Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment) “No More” poster campaign featuring celebrities (*Trigger warning for mention of victim blaming*) Continue reading
As a surprise for the end of Sexvember, ASC has decided to get back to its roots and return to the wonderful world of WordPress!
In addition to reopening this blog as a public discussion space for the Haverford community, we’re also hosting some events in the non-virtual space (arguably the “real world”).
Come hang out with us this Friday, November 22nd, at 7:30 PM in Stokes Auditorium for a talk by one-of-our-first-feminist-crushes Jaclyn Friedman who is, among many other things, the editor of the amazing Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape. If you’re interested in being a part of a discussion or dinner with Jaclyn in the afternoon before her talk, e-mail one of ASC’s co-heads Julia at firstname.lastname@example.org to sign up!
And, in the news: Title IX Network Takes Colleges to Task for Mishandling Rape Reports. Thoughts?
As always, feel free to comment, e-mail us at email@example.com, or post for yourselves!
The new Violence Against Women Act, which will be signed into law by President Obama today, will include additional requirements about colleges’ prevention of and response to sexual assault. The inclusion of preventative education in the law is one of the more striking and important additions, according to NPR’s Morning Edition. As many remember, the addition of preventative healthy sexuality education is one of the central goals of ASC, and has been improved at Haverford in the recent years. Other tenets of the new law include the requirement that colleges provide additional resources to survivors of sexual violence. So, is Haverford doing enough (check out the revamped Sexual Misconduct resource page for more info)? What else could and should the college do, now that these requirements are clearly outlined in both Title IX and VAWA?
The Wonkblog on the online version of the Washington Post passed along this graphic from the Huffington Post about the legal experiences of rapists in the U.S. “put together by the Enliven Project using data from Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey and FBI reports.”
50 Haverford students converged to watch the Fire Gypsy do a burlesque striptease, wave flaming batons and dance with a hula hoop on fire. The Field House felt especially cavernous, the lights were shining and we were piled onto metal bleachers in the middle of the track. The Fire Gypsy danced her three songs. No one in the audience seemed to know what to do or how to act, so the space faltered between cricket-silence and objectifying-call-outs and the occasional gasp of surprise (or turn on?)– it was hard to tell. Both devoured by the audience from afar, and interacting with us during her act, the Fire Gypsy got down to her bra and undies in her second song. A male-voiced-person called out “Nice ass!” and a female-voiced-person called out “shame!” while other audience members exchanged looks of disgust. In that moment, I felt like the show became more about us, (Haverford students, audience members, consumers of spectacle) than about her, and I realized all over again how inept we are as a community at having positive conversations and experiences dealing with sex and sexuality, and how much work we have to do.
What could have happened:
50 Haverford students come together, out of the cold and into a cozy, respectable space, but not too frilly or quaint. The emcee welcomes everyone and explains how the performer would like to be treated (“call-outs welcome!” or “She is a professional dancer and would rather the audience be quiet”). The event is a celebration of body and sex positivity, and ideally had multiple body types represented, all to be honored. After the dancing/striptease part of the show, the performers and audience members could mingle and talk about art and sex work. There could have been pamphlets and/or ‘zines about sex positivity and safer sex and consent, as well as condoms for people to take for later (even though they’re available elsewhere on campus).
What was happening for me:
The event didn’t feel like a community, more like a bunch of individuals staring at a young woman eating fire. I felt uncomfortable when people were shouting call-outs that seemed objectifying and rude. I’m not a big fan using call-outs to publicly shame folks, but I also would have been sad to see no one react to the obvious inappropriate (and out-of-line) comments coming from the audience. I was thinking about the queer burlesque show that I attended at the Wooden Shoe in Philadelphia some time last year – that was both more sex positive and more provocative than this one (though in other ways).
I wanted to think Haverford had changed so much that I started to believe in my imaginary Haverworld. It’s pretty easy to do when you spend most of your time off-campus. I’m not trying to shame people or our community- I don’t think that’s productive. I can still imagine a sex positive campus culture where sexuality is celebrated, not objectified and where partners always ask each other before sex. But we have a long way to go until we get there.
Andrew Sawyer was harassed and sexually assaulted at work and he is convinced the DA thew out his suit against the harassers because he is a man. He started a peition to convince the DA to prosecute those responsible for his assault.You can sign it here: