Hello blog readers. The concept of rape jokes and rape pages has come up n reference a few times before in this blog, but for me these have been primarily in the abstract. However, tonight I saw the following status/comments show up in my news feed from one of my Facebook friends:
Original post: Its not rape if you yell surprise.
6 people like this.
Commenter 1: Just made my week with that (:
Commenter 2: I agree with her ^^^
Original poster: Lol youre welcome
Commenter 4: uhm psst ur missing sumthing to that
Commenter 4: its not rape if u yell surprise and throw confetti
Commenter 5: Well I’ll remember that [name removed] and if I ever get in trouble I’ll plea insanity and say you told me it was ok as long as I yelled suprise!!:))
I was shocked not only by the status, but also by other people’s response to it. Unfortunatley, this is not the first time I’ve heard this joke, but it was the first time I had seen a individual publicly promote such ideas (compared to a more collective rape page, which are slowly being removed from Facebook due to public pressure.) I reported the post to Facebook, and sent the original poster the following message:
Hey [name removed]. I am sure you didn’t mean anything harmful by this, but rape jokes are not funny. Not only can they be psychologically triggering for survivors of rape and sexual assault, but they also make light of a very serious crime that is underreported because survivors are shamed and/or not taken seriously. Rape is the only crime where the victim has to convince others that he/she did not want to be victimized. Your joke plays on the type of cultural stereotypes that promote this lax view of sexual violence. So, while I am hopeful you meant nothing by your post, I would appreciate if you would take it down. I find it’s sentiments and the comments and like below it deeply disturbing.