Great sex isn’t just the absence of rape

Having sex that isn’t rape is like cooking food that isn’t poison.  It’s the bare goddamn minimum.  If your list of sex tips consists of nothing but “don’t rape” and then goes straight into physical details, you’re missing something in the middle.

Few things worry me more than people (okay, men) who say it’s difficult to know if someone’s consenting or not.  This suggests to me not just that they could be violating someone’s consent, but that even if they aren’t, they’re having terrible sex.  If your idea of sex is limited to “one partner silently gets on and grinds away and the other tolerates it,” it can be consensual, but it’s probably not much fun.

via The Pervocracy

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