As a surprise for the end of Sexvember, ASC has decided to get back to its roots and return to the wonderful world of WordPress!
In addition to reopening this blog as a public discussion space for the Haverford community, we’re also hosting some events in the non-virtual space (arguably the “real world”).
Come hang out with us this Friday, November 22nd, at 7:30 PM in Stokes Auditorium for a talk by one-of-our-first-feminist-crushes Jaclyn Friedman who is, among many other things, the editor of the amazing Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape. If you’re interested in being a part of a discussion or dinner with Jaclyn in the afternoon before her talk, e-mail one of ASC’s co-heads Julia at firstname.lastname@example.org to sign up!
And, in the news: Title IX Network Takes Colleges to Task for Mishandling Rape Reports. Thoughts?
As always, feel free to comment, e-mail us at email@example.com, or post for yourselves!
Having sex that isn’t rape is like cooking food that isn’t poison. It’s the bare goddamn minimum. If your list of sex tips consists of nothing but “don’t rape” and then goes straight into physical details, you’re missing something in the middle.
Few things worry me more than people (okay, men) who say it’s difficult to know if someone’s consenting or not. This suggests to me not just that they could be violating someone’s consent, but that even if they aren’t, they’re having terrible sex. If your idea of sex is limited to “one partner silently gets on and grinds away and the other tolerates it,” it can be consensual, but it’s probably not much fun.
via The Pervocracy
From Autostraddle: How I Learned to Talk (in Bed): Why This Queer Woman Cares About Consent
Consent should belong to everyone. Because consent is not about preventing violence or fixing rape culture. (That’s a bonus.) Consent is about having sex on our own terms, no matter what they are in that instant. But globally, the dominant conversation about sex and consent is about men and women having sex and utilizing consent. Many times, the patriarchal gender norms of our world also dictate how sex and consent work in the bedroom. And all of these conversations may make you, as a queer woman, feel pretty excluded by the consent movement. And maybe you even think, like I did, that consent just isn’t for or about you. But it is.
And I know because when I started having sex with women, I started to ask.