As a surprise for the end of Sexvember, ASC has decided to get back to its roots and return to the wonderful world of WordPress!
In addition to reopening this blog as a public discussion space for the Haverford community, we’re also hosting some events in the non-virtual space (arguably the “real world”).
Come hang out with us this Friday, November 22nd, at 7:30 PM in Stokes Auditorium for a talk by one-of-our-first-feminist-crushes Jaclyn Friedman who is, among many other things, the editor of the amazing Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape. If you’re interested in being a part of a discussion or dinner with Jaclyn in the afternoon before her talk, e-mail one of ASC’s co-heads Julia at firstname.lastname@example.org to sign up!
And, in the news: Title IX Network Takes Colleges to Task for Mishandling Rape Reports. Thoughts?
As always, feel free to comment, e-mail us at email@example.com, or post for yourselves!
Tonight Allied Students for Consent will be hosting Azucena Ugarte, Education and Training Coordinator for Women Against Abuse in Philly, who will give a workshop on Intimate Partner Violence. The training will cover the different forms of abusive relationships, why abusive relationships are so hard to get out of, warning signs, and how to be a resource for a friend in need. Customsfolk, Quaker Bouncers, Rufus Jones leaders, and any students who want to prevent violence by being an active bystander are strongly encouraged to attend.
Tonight at 7pm, CC313
Tonight at 8pm in the Old Squash Courts, Allied Students for Consent brings you a walking tour of different short films and slam poetry centered around themes of rape culture and sexual violence, both at home and abroad. The different screenings will be followed by a short talk-back, where people can reflect on what they have seen.
Topics covered include sexual violence in South Africa, cultivation of healthy masculinity, slut-shaming, excusing campus rape through the old adage “boys will the boys, victim-blaming, portrayals of violence against women in the media, and the power of the word “no.” The various film clips are divided into “potentially triggering” and “less triggering,” and members of ASC will be on hand to guide visitors to their films of choice. So join us, for free condoms, information, and community dialogue about one of the critical issues on our campus and in our world!
*This event is part of a series presented in observance of Rape and Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
We have a bunch of events planned, and we hope you’ll come show your support for survivors on campus.
- S’mores Cookout, Founder’s Green (4/5, 4-5:30 pm): Celebrate a safer campus with the Women’s Center, SOAR, and ASC
- Take Back the Night, meet at the Coop (4/5, 8)
- Speakout, Founder’s Common Room (4/5, 9:30)
- One in Four, Campus Center 313 (4/9 at 7:30): Find out how to support survivors in a presentation by and for men (women may also attend).
- ASC Presents: Shorts, Squash Courts (4/15, 8 pm): Join us for an hour of documentaries, Public Service Announcements, and slam poetry about sexual violence, followed by a talkback.
- End Abuse Training, Campus Center 313 (4/18, 8 pm): Learn about the warning signs of Intimate Partner Violence, and how and when to stop in.
- Closing Ceremonies, by the Stepping Stones Project (outside Magill) (4/25, 5 pm)
- Clothesline Project: decorate a shirt with a story of sexual violence–yours or a friend’s.
- Stepping Stones: leave a stone by the tree in front of the library in honor of the survivors in your life.
Note: This project will begin with the launch of RASA month on Wednesday.
In the Jewish tradition, it is customary to place a small stone on a gravesite in honor of the memory of the deceased. At the tree in front of the library, we honor the living survivors of rape and sexual assault. Their stories will not go unheard.
Leave a stone in support of the survivors in your life and in remembrance of those whose stories go untold. Stones are available by the tree, and will be visible for the month of April. The following poem is excerpted on the plaque by the stones:
A LITANY FOR SURVIVAL
For those of us who live at the shoreline
standing upon the constant edges of decision
crucial and alone
for those of us who cannot indulge
the passing dreams of choice
who love in doorways coming and going
in the hours between dawns
looking inward and outward
at once before and after
seeking a now that can breed
like bread in our children’s mouths
so their dreams will not reflect
the death of ours:
For those of us
who were imprinted with fear
like a faint line in the center of our foreheads
learning to be afraid with our mother’s milk
for by this weapon
this illusion of some safety to be found
the heavy-footed hoped to silence us
For all of us
this instant and this triumph
We were never meant to survive.
And when the sun rises we are afraid
it might not remain
when the sun sets we are afraid
it might not rise in the morning
when our stomachs are full we are afraid
when our stomachs are empty we are afraid
we may never eat again
when we are loved we are afraid
love will vanish
when we are alone we are afraid
love will never return
and when we speak we are afraid
our words will not be heard
but when we are silent
we are still afraid
So it is better to speak
we were never meant to survive
– Audre Lorde, The Black Unicorn
Edited 4/10 to include photo at beginning of post.
Allied Students for Consent (ASC) will be putting up new posters on Sunday at 8:30. If you want to join us, meet at the Campus Center Alumni Room (2nd floor, above the Coop Lounge). It should be a lot of fun! Here’s a list of the posters we’ll be putting up this time:
- Consent is active, enthusiastic, and freely given.
- ASC brings together survivors and allies of all genders and sexualities. We seek to prevent sexual violence, promote a survivor-friendly environment, and foster healthy sexual attitudes on campus through awareness, dialogue, and education.
- What is consent? ASC me!
How do you get consent?
- Do you want to…
- Do you like it when I…
- What are you into?
- Is this okay?
- Are you sure?
How do you give consent?
- I love it when you…
- I want you to…
- Keep going!
What can “no” sound like?
- Not now
- Maybe later
- No, but do you want to…
- I’m not sure
- I don’t know
- If you want to, I guess
Per your suggestions about reducing triggering, the “no” posters will all be outside of the dorms. Let us know if you have any other posters you’d like to see or any requests for minimizing your triggers.
Speak About It, the progressive, preventative sexual violence presentation that came to campus during Customs week is back TONIGHT. Speak About It will be presenting an updated program with upperclassmen in mind. Care about our community values? Want to make a difference and promote healthy sexuality on campus? Want to know how to be an active bystander? Founders 8-9pm– be there!